You will get further in less time in finding a relationship if you allow yourself to be genuine.It’s OK to put your best foot forward, and also to be a bit cautious, but have the courage to be upfront and show who you are. Talking too much about your ex: While this information will eventually be shared at least to some extent, it shouldn’t be discussed in detail during the initial phase of a relationship.We don’t want to “settle,” and the quest for the perfect mate can cause us to overlook or undervalue a truly good partner.
You want to show interest by asking about their likes or dislikes, but not press someone for information.If fear of commitment is an obstacle, better to work out your patterns (or schemas) in therapy than in your relationships. If you do it, then you need to pace yourself, and be more considerate of the other person, who you are probably leading on. Not being honest about your needs: Pretending everything is OK can work for only so long.If you fall for those who do it, then you need to slow things down and not get taken for a ride (or pursue a different type! Assertiveness is a golden skill for those who are ready for a mature relationship.For example, telling someone you love him or her so they will sleep with you, and then not calling them again.This form of manipulation is simply unacceptable (to put it mildly), and does not lead to healthy relationships.