Some guys have success with making a “come here” gesture with their hands and waving her over; it’s a bold move and one that’s easy to mess up by seeming too demanding, but it work. You’d Now you’re too intimidated to try to go over and introduce yourself while she’s around all those people, so you decide that you’ll just wait until there’s a chance to catch her alone. only “later” never comes because by the time you’ve decided to give it another shot, she’s disappeared. As intimidated as Approaching someone you don’t know who’s in a group isn’t any less daunting when you’re a woman. Fun is, hands down, the most attractive aspect of a man and someone who is having fun is going to be more interesting and more appealing to others.
Just don’t bro out and make a stupid joke like “I just wanted to see if I could make you come from a distance. If you’re with your guy friends, she’s going to feel like she’s not just having to talk to you but deal with all of silent (or not so silent) judgement. And because we’re empathetic animals, our moods are contagious.
out, smile and orient your body towards her; this indicates that yes, you saw her noticing you and you’re interested in her. Want to make sure she understands that you’re open to being approached? Every time it seems like she’s about to go off on her own, someone else comes in and starts talking to her. So if you want her to approach you, you have to make sure to give her an opening. You may step away to grab a drink, check out something you saw earlier, check your text messages or just grab some air…
Give her a more visible sign – guys giving the eyebrow flash is a long-recognized sign of interest, as is a nod that yes, you see her and you’re open to talking. There will also be plenty of times when you may want to be slightly more direct and give a head nod indicating that she should come over. But now you’re aware you’re verging into creeper territory, so you walk a way and hope to catch her later… but deliberately separating yourself from everybody gives her an opportunity to come up to you when she doesn’t feel like she has to work up even yourself.
If you want women to be approaching you, you have to pay attention to your style, your grooming and your smell.
A good haircut, keeping any facial hair neatly trimmed and clean, stylish clothes that more approachable than the sloppy-looking guy in the baggy sweatshirt with the stains and the jeans that reek of cigarette smoke with bed-head and three days’ worth of stubble. Because it takes advantage of what’s known as the Halo Effect, a cognitive bias that causes our overall impression of someone to affect how we think about them. This doesn’t mean that you need to be rocking a three-piece suit at all hours, but if you’re going out of the house, you want to make sure to take the time to look sharp.
As I’ve said before: there’s being good looking, and then there’s being attractive.
One is about your physical looks and the other is about your overall presentation.
Slumped shoulders, crossed arms or legs, and looking down towards the floor all screams “don’t talk to me”; anyone standing like that is closing themselves down and turning people away.Now imagine what I could do this close…” Yes, I’ve seen people actually do this. It did, however, get them covered in amaretto sour, which provided . A warm smile is the difference between “You’re awesome and I’d love to talk to you” and “It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again.” Think of all the times when you’ve seen someone you’ve been interested in. When we’re around someone who’s joking with their friends, laughing, dancing or otherwise having a good time, Someone who is cranky, upset, depressed or gloomy isn’t someone we’re going to want to approach; they bring our mood down and suck the life out of the room…not something that’s going to make them appealing to others.You want your body language to be open and inviting, with your shoulders back (but not far back; you’re enjoying yourself, not standing at attention), and arms open.Not only is this a more friendly and accommodating pose, but it makes you look more confident as well.